“Boys Being Boys”
If there’s one phrase that many women can’t help but roll their eyes at or even recoil at hearing, it’s the phrase, “Boys will be boys.”
This phrase has been used time and time again to excuse inappropriate behavior from boys and men directed towards women and girls. This OP heard it really young when she was picked on by her brothers. Yet, if she did the same thing, it was a punishable offense.
An Unfair Perspective
You can really tell, especially when you look back on growing up, that some were considered “for boys” and some were considered “for girls.”
For instance, like this woman, you might have shown an interest in dance or music and seen it treated differently than your brother’s interest in sports. She never forgot that her brother never had to go to her recitals but she had to go to every one of his games.
Is It Really?
If you want to get a tattoo before you’re 18 years old, you have to get parental permission. A shop isn’t going to let you get a tattoo underage.
When this OP’s brother was 16 years old, he wanted a tattoo. It took almost no convincing until Dad approved. Later, he didn’t do the same for his daughter. Why? Well, he was pretty upfront about why he treated them differently.
Aside from physically limiting themselves when it comes to food, women also have to deal with unwelcome comments.
This woman watched their brothers eat everything in the house and that was never a problem because, after all, they were growing boys. On the other hand, if you’re 6’2″, you’d need just as much food to nourish you right? Not according to this OP’s parents.
A Dangerous Precedent
As we’ve seen, parents sometimes go to great lengths to control their children’s diets. This was another home in which that was entirely contingent on gender.
This person remembered watching her brothers eat bigger portions and even have snacks that she’d never been told were in the house. Putting a child on a diet for no reason other than their gender is already bad enough but lying about and hiding food from them? That only adds to the situation here.
You Cannot Be Serious
When you move into a new apartment, you have to make sure that you have everything you need to live. This can be a really costly part of getting a new apartment.
If you watched your brother get his whole apartment stocked with IKEA furniture from your parents, you’d probably expect them to perhaps do the same for you. Instead, this OP’s parents questioned why she’d even need the table.
Different Rules, Different Outcomes
First off, we’ll say that we can see why parents would worry about teen relationships and the consequences their children could fall headlong into.
That’s not really the problem here, though, is it? It was the fact that the rules were applied differently to this woman and her two brothers. As you might expect, the same consequences they feared for their daughter ended up being a part of their sons’ lives.
There are a lot of outdated thoughts about women that we have to wonder exactly where they came from. This is one you may have heard before.
Despite what you might have been told growing up, girls do sweat and they’re allowed to. In fact, doing something physical is a good thing! This mom made a decision based on antiquated “rules” that we don’t really aim to play by anymore.
Awful in More Ways Than One
Sometimes, so much unfair treatment goes on in your childhood that it’s hard to really pinpoint one moment that really stood out.
Unfortunately, it seems like this woman dealt with more than just misogyny from her parents. Parents should never make their children feel like they’re too hard to raise. It’s even harder when you’re singled out like this from your brothers. We can only imagine what this must have felt like.
What Yard Work?
Women are often unfairly expected to do more housework than men. All you have to do is look at an ad from the ’50s to notice the trend and it’s not like that’s totally gone now.
This person couldn’t help but notice how much more trouble they would get in than their brothers for a messy house. However, something else stuck out to them. The reason it was never their brothers’ fault didn’t quite ring true.
Changing the Curfew
Once you’re an adult, most of us don’t have to deal with curfews anymore. So, the curfew here is already a bit more than most people would expect when you’re 23.
This woman can’t help but feel that it’s even more unfair that her brothers don’t experience nearly the same thing. While this 20-something-year-old woman has earlier curfews and limitations as to who she can and cannot hang out with, her teenage brother is allowed to drive cross country.
A Bit Blatant
Some differences you see between yourself and your brothers growing up, for many women are subtle. Sadly, not-so-subtle differences rear their ugly heads from time to time as well.
As for this person, she was wondering why they were never allowed to take the front seat. Not to worry — this family was happy to explain the chauvinistic view behind their decision. In fact, they just outright said what they meant.
Internet dating does have its risks, so parents often have rules about what they allow their children to do. That doesn’t mean each child always gets the same treatment, though.
As far as internet dating goes, this woman did her due diligence. She made sure to at least speak on the phone with the guy before agreeing to meet him. On the other hand, probably thanks to a different set of fears for each, her brother didn’t have the same restrictions.
When it comes to dress codes, it’s often one of the easiest ways to find examples of misogyny. Many women have grown up with rules on how to dress, even in their own homes.
This daughter watched her brothers walk around comfortably in their boxers all the time. However, the one time that she ran across the house with a sports bra on, it was a problem. That’s the getup many women workout in — and, even further, these standards were applied unfairly.
There are plenty of valid reasons that your parents might not let you date with a big age gap when you’re a teen. It can really leave you in vulnerable situations.
So, this woman not being allowed to date someone two years her senior as a teen came from a valid fear. Yet, we have to wonder why they didn’t think of the relationship their son was having with a girl two years younger than him, even though the siblings were roughly the same age.
This person wanted to kick things off by making one thing clear — she loves her brother even though there were plenty of times she saw a difference in how they were each treated by their parents.
Still, it was hard not to think about the comparison from time to time. It seems like their father was willing to buy his son anything he wanted. When it came to his daughter, he was never quite as giving with his daughter, leaving her to scrape things together herself.
Clearly, There Are Different Rules
No matter what MTV told us, the practice of getting a new car for your 16th is often reserved for wealthier families. That’s what it seemed like here for a minute.
When both of this family’s daughters needed cars, they were told to fend for themselves. They only got them when they worked hard and scraped together the money themselves. That’s not exactly what the sisters saw happen when their brother was in the same position.
Raising Your Voice
There are some things that you get in trouble for a lot as a teen. A lot of people remember being berated for their “teenage attitude.” This woman couldn’t help but notice a bit of difference between what was considered “attitude,” though.
If her brother snapped, swore, or yelled, it seemed like there was no consequence. On the other hand, if her tone was even a little annoyed, there were consequences that her brother never faced.
There are plenty of families that include grandparents in a very active part of their grandchildren’s childhood. In this family, that meant that their grandparents stepped in to provide field trips, as one example.
There was something about what they expected for that help that stood out to this person. When her brothers needed something, it was no questions asked. If the OP needed something, there was housework in store for them to “work it off,” so to speak.
Just Outright Saying It
There’s an antiquated idea that cooking is something that a woman does in the family. The truth is, the oven doesn’t ask you what your gender is.
Still, that didn’t stop this father from pressing his daughter to learn to cook more than his son. This wasn’t something that he was passing down without thinking about either. He made it clear that he thought about her and her brother differently.
A Horrible Story
There are some things that are never okay. This was a gross overreaction that was completely the brother’s fault, let’s be perfectly clear.
An apology wasn’t going to cut it here and this young woman wasn’t going to just accept an apology and move on. After all, she was shaken, as anyone in this position would be. Her mother’s response to this was absolutely awful; she shouldn’t be punished for her reaction to an attack.
The way that romance is viewed by comparing men and women can come with a lot of variation. We’ve already heard examples of different standards between brothers and sisters.
The one that this woman noticed the most clearly was her father’s reaction to intimacy when he saw each of them. In most people’s eyes, the encounter with the brother would be incredibly awkward. Plus, not speaking to your own child for a week is a pretty harsh punishment.
It seems like housework is a frequent area where daughters notice majorly different expectations for them and for their brothers. The same was true in this woman’s story. As a matter of fact, it would be nearly impossible not to notice the difference here.
If you’ve ever been put in a position where you take on the majority or all of the housework, you know how draining it can be. It’s also really disheartening to be so involved in cleaning the house when others aren’t very helpful.
A Different Curriculum
Over the summer, kids get a break from school. However, many parents enroll them in activities or provide their own during the break to keep their minds active.
When parents build the curriculum, though, they can choose to do it in any subject they like. This isn’t technically school-related, after all. So, the boys were assigned math while the girls’ summer education was more focused on perfecting their cursive and choir songs.
Do I Look Like Your Waitress?
There are some men who just expect women to wait on them hand and foot. When those men have daughters, that treatment can be painfully noticeable.
It would have been faster and easier for everyone to walk a few feet to the fridge and grab what they needed themselves. The fact that they then decided to interrupt her and make her come downstairs just to hand them something baffles us. If anyone’s confused, we promise, the fridge door will open for both men and women.
If there’s one thing that any woman or anyone who’s ever even presented femininely can tell you, people can get really nasty about your looks.
Critiquing a child’s weight and looks is already something that makes most parents’ skin crawl. The idea that these parents would bully her into a certain aesthetic and leave her brother alone really highlights the difference in how they were treated and judged by gender alone.
Buying a New Fridge
There are often many examples in a woman’s life of treatment like this. This woman had a particular story that she wanted to share that would sum everything up quite well.
When she needed a fridge, she covered all her bases when it came to making sure she got exactly what she needed. Still, that didn’t convince her father right away. With a little prompting, though, maybe she finally got through to him.
The Value of Dependence
This one is about the opposite of making a daughter do all the housework. However, that doesn’t mean it’s a great story either. This OP wasn’t just not assigned housework, she wasn’t allowed to do it.
In general, she got the sense that her mother didn’t want her to be as independent as her brother. Whether it was overprotectiveness or something else, this sort of behavior doesn’t promote independence.
There are some people who fall into certain roles naturally during family gatherings. For instance, if you have a baker in your family, they might take over dessert.
Then, there are some decisions that are just made by asking someone of a certain gender to do what people have traditionally assigned to them. This woman didn’t see how it was fair that she had to help while their brothers and cousins got to hang out.
“Not for Girls”
There are some instances when it feels easier to think of ways that you were treated equally with your brothers rather than think of how you were treated differently. This person could think of a long list of ways they were treated differently from their brothers.
Not only was she kept from “boys’ activities” but she was also pushed to focus on her looks — using makeup and dieting. And we’ve already touched on some of the dangers of dieting so young.
Not Knowing What to Do
When it came to traditions to keep, it seems like this mom was keeping a few antiquated ones when it came to daughters and sons.
If you had to help cook and clean but your brothers didn’t have the same chores — or any chores, for that manner — you’d probably get really frustrated. Later on, it was even easier to tell that her father preferred to spend time with her brother, which must have been heartbreaking.
Turning Down Help
It’s not just the things that women and girls are expected to do that can stand out to them. Sometimes, it’s easy to see that you’re treated differently for what you aren’t allowed to do.
This woman was trying to be helpful when she was younger and offered to help her father with mowing the lawn. If you’ve cut the lawn on a summer day, you know it can be difficult. Still, she wasn’t allowed to help at all, just for being a girl.
Even Wall Colors
There’s a lot of talk about “boy’s colors” and “girl’s colors.” You’ve probably seen a party or two themed in either blue or pink. Those are the sorts of colors you reserve for the baby shower, right?
As it turned out, this woman was stopped from choosing her own paint color when she was younger because navy blue was apparently not as feminine as sky blue. Clearly, she didn’t end up liking this color more because of these actions.
A Terrifying Trend
We’ve talked a lot about how dietary restrictions have negative impressions on many young girls. That doesn’t mean that men don’t experience it, but there’s a clear chauvinism when it comes to how women’s bodies are critiqued.
As for this woman, her parents were quick to critique her diet, leaving her searching for that middle ground. It resulted in an eating disorder. Plus, watching her brother eat uncritiqued couldn’t have helped the situation at all.
When you think of the holidays with your family, do you think about all the family time and gift-giving? Or do you dread all the chores that come with it?
If you were a member of this family, you might identify more with the latter. This woman noticed that her brothers’ holiday responsibilities weren’t taxing or time-consuming. On the other hand, she was expected to give up her whole day and more for the holidays.
A Lot to Take In
The first part of this comment is already one that would blow most people’s minds. With children so close in age, why is he favored on birthdays like this?
Even further, and on a more general note, she said it was easy to see that between them, their mother preferred her brother. Still, we’re glad to see that this person is thriving now and experienced things her brother never did.
We’ve seen a lot of awful behavior at this point. Most of it has been a story of favoritism or old ideas worsening the relationship between women and their parents.
This woman’s story was more about their relationship with their brothers as well as her guardians. Over the years, she was responsible for her brother’s behavior. There was no moment to criticize them or even talk through something — she had to forgive and forget, no matter what.
Pros and Cons
There are a few things that you can probably say if you were to compare growing up with your siblings. This woman shared a couple of cons and a pro.
To start with the good news, she was given a lot more forgiveness than her brother was. On the other hand, she did have stricter rules when it came to milestones of independence. While it was unequal punishment, the standard wasn’t anarchical in either direction.
There’s a Mix
It’s important to point out in plain terms that gendered expectations can affect both young boys and girls. Again, this person had something to say on each of their sides.
As for her, she noticed that there was a different, more reserved persona expected from her. Yet, she wasn’t as harshly punished when she slipped up or did something she was supposed to as opposed to her brother.
Hold On a Second
As an older child, you’re often expected to be more responsible. This older sister couldn’t help but notice that it seemed like there was nothing her siblings could do to get in trouble.
There are a few things that you might think were just completely over the line and anyone has to get in trouble at home, right? What if they broke the law? Well, it turns out that even that didn’t warrant punishments like this person experienced.
Making it Known
Parents playing favorites is bound to hurt your children and even test their relationships with each other thanks to the different treatment.
This woman was already taking on a lot of household tasks at a young age from cooking to childcare. To make matters worse, she says that she and her younger brother were painfully aware of who their mom favored more. This sounds like it would be terribly stressful.
No Hockey for Girls
While sports are often split into teams for boys and teams for girls, that doesn’t mean that the sport is something only one gender is capable of. It was only this person’s parents that stopped her from playing hockey, unlike her brothers.
To add to that, she was also expected to spend more time on housework and cooking. Even now, she can see her family’s disapproval of her relationship just because she and her partner are on equal footing.
Completely Different Lives
There’s a point where it’s hard to think of what it would be like if your brother was actually forced to help out the way that you were.
That was only multiplied when this gal looked at the expectations of her and her sister versus their brother. It wasn’t just that they had to take on the majority of the housework but they were expected to financially contribute at a young age.
Do You Hear Yourself?
There are some things that parents do when they favor one of their children over the other that really speak volumes to the child who didn’t get the same help. In this woman’s case, it was the difference in support during college.
Getting half of what your sibling gets to support themselves could possibly be explained if they were in a worse financial situation but these parents really turned a blind eye while their daughter was struggling. How do you not hear how absurd your reasoning is?
The Great Recession made many people lose their jobs who were left floating in this world without a safety net. Having a financial backup came in the form of a sugar daddy for one Redditor.
She dabbled in the job for a while and only recalled the excellent aspects. From designer bags to luxury getaways, all these amenities came her way once she found a good sugar daddy. She also says she never had to relax her personal boundaries for it, which is like a bonus.
Warning: you’ll hate sugar daddies after reading this post. As much as the glitz and glamor can confuse anyone about this lifestyle, it can also be physically and mentally taxing. Being a plus-sized sugar baby isn’t easy, according to this poster.
From her experience, she can vividly remember how she was discriminated against because of her figure. Not only was she mentally abused, she was also paid less and made to feel that she had to give them more than she was comfortable with.
No Strings Attached
Not everyone is equipped to be in a committed relationship. Some people prefer not having strings attached, and that’s completely fine. This is what a sugar daddy-baby relationship has to offer (well, apart from the money, of course).
This 19-year-old makes more than $500 per date with her sugar daddies. Not only that, but she has found that conversations and intimacy come easier with an older man. She is upfront with them about having no long-term attachments, and it’s worked out for her fine.
A Career-Building Job
Stories of a successful male sugar baby aren’t as commonly found as those of women. A male sugar baby shared his experience with this job, and it was mostly pleasant. Sugar dating is more than the looks. Let’s find out why…
This Redditor reveals that he was able to become a globe trotter, homeowner, and certified accountant all through this line of work. Say goodbye to linear career paths, right?
Generally, sugar babies go into sugar dating with a specific goal in mind. Many are looking to get through college, put their child through school, or even invest in property. Did you know that you can buy yourself a house by reselling all the expensive gifts given by your sugar daddy?
Well, this woman has proved that nothing is impossible if you are financially responsible. After five years in the game, she feels that even though the men will test their boundaries, they are mostly respectful.
Best Arrangement Ever
If a sugar arrangement is that good, many will choose to keep it going and see where life takes them. As a long-term sugar baby, one Redditor now has a bank account full of savings, bonds, an investment portfolio and expensive designer pieces with high resale values.
Her sugar daddy is loving and non-invasive. He urges her to broaden her knowledge and has taught her much about life. With no time for a serious relationship, the man greatly depends on this woman for company.
A Moment in Time
There are pros and cons to everything. Finding the right balance is what helps people decide whether the sugar baby life is for them. While many have found it mutually beneficial, some get tired of the stress and simply want out.
A Redditor found herself in a bad financial position and turned to this line of work as a way to help pay off her college fees. Though she wasn’t in it for very long as she found being a sugar baby to be pressurizing and stressful.
Still in Touch
This next story sounds like the Hallmark sugar relationship. This woman’s sugar daddy was very fond of her and enjoyed spoiling her for nothing in return. This relationship went on for seven years until she found someone to settle down with.
They both knew it wouldn’t work out as they wanted different things in life. Even though the former-sugar baby is now married, she still keeps in touch with her ‘old friend.’
Different People, Different Needs
A big part of a sugar relationship is being highly aware of your surroundings and playing the part. Whether that means wearing the right clothes, acting a certain way or offering a certain level of intimacy.
This Reddditor emphasizes that this sugar relationship is transactional and therefore the sugar baby should comply with the agreed upon terms. As an example, she recalls being extra happy and smiley around a specific client.
A Good Fling
There are sugar babies out there who have multiple sugar daddies, while there are also people who are overwhelmed by just one. In a sugar “relationship” with a man 20 years older than her, a woman found that their casual thing was quite fulfilling.
He would only ever ask for her company when he was in town, and he would take her out to fancy restaurants or bars. They were aware of their relationship status and never tried to make each other uncomfortable.
Out of Proportion
Even in 2022, talking about workers in the adult industry, or sugar babies, is considered taboo. The concept that sugar babies are simply greedy and sugar daddies are just older men with a hankering for intimacy is outdated.
This Redditor shares that she was well “taken care of” by an older man during her college years. It was a beneficial and consensual relationship, and they stayed friends for a long time after their arrangement ended.
On the Side
Sugar arrangements are a great source of side income if you are careful. Once you get the hang of it and understand how to find compatible partners, you can really enjoy it – both monetarily and spiritually.
Being attracted to older men makes the life of one Redditor much easier. She has a full-time job, but her sugar arrangements are what help her spend money on lavish purchases. Her long-term sugar daddy meets her every once in a while and pays around $400 for each date.
Good While it Lasted
Once you take the temporary money and gratification out of sugar work, the risks can make your head dizzy. After all, the source isn’t consistent. And one slip-up can really cost you. Plus, many sugar babies have confessed to finding sugar sources complex after reaching a certain age.
This Redditor recalls her former-sugar baby life consisted of shopping or dinner dates which doesn’t sound too bad. However, the uncertainty surrounding the lifestyle is what convinced her to go back to her life before.
Pressures of College
Busy academic schedules and a growing need for money have landed many college students in knee-length debts. On average, it can take a college student between 10-15 years to pay off their tuition debt. So, becoming a sugar baby seems like a fair way to make a lot of money quickly.
Pressures of College
This particular poster met her potential clients online and she would receive money and other compensation in the form of indulgence. However, it is not concluded whether or not she had a positive and safe experience.
Not About Age
It’s a misconception that sugar daddies are men who are well into their 40s, 50s, or above. In definition, a sugar daddy is an older man looking to spend money on someone in exchange for physical or emotional favors.
A college student met a guy four years older than her on Tinder and very soon into dating he propositioned her. They agreed to the relationship’s terms and she enjoyed the gifts that came along with it.
People collect coins or stamps as a hobby; this sugar baby collects sugar daddies of all kinds. She is a professional in this line of work and juggles seven sugar daddies simultaneously.
Not only does she enjoy learning about the different professions of her clientele but she also finds pleasure in trying out new sports, such as sailing and golf. In summary, she is happy with how she opened herself up to brand new experiences and a way of life.
A Safe Place
A big myth that needs to be busted is that sugar arrangements are about satisfying one’s physical needs. More often than not, these sugar daddies are living busy and lonely lives and really just want some third-party support.
While this Redditor admits that there was bedroom activity, a lot of their time together centered around long and meaningful talks. In the end, she felt more like a personal therapist than a sugar baby.
Flexibility Is Important
A lot of the time, a man or woman is rich enough to be a sugar daddy/mommy because they have crazy work schedules. These people are always on the move and very focused on their careers, which may take away their chance at a regular relationship.
Typical dating methods are too time-consuming, so they seek solace in the company of a mate who will not demand their time or efforts. They can contact their sugar baby whenever they want to. A lot of flexibility is provided in these arrangements.
All on the Table
One great thing about transactional arrangements is that they are very straightforward. Both parties have all cards on the table (or are recommended to), and there should be no uncertainty or boundaries crossed.
The sugar baby gets showered with expensive meals, vacations, clothes, and more, while the sugar daddy gets their company and, occasionally, intimacy. The simplicity of this process is quite refreshing as it is hugely contrasts with the romantic relationships our society has put forward.
Sweet Home Alabama
There are many online platforms to sign up to be a sugar baby. The process is simple: you enter your information, pictures, and what you are looking for. In many of these cases, the sugar daddy will approach someone who they think will be suitable.
There are also the occasions when people are recruited in real life and many of these sugar baby propositions are inappropriate. Though, the worst one we’ve heard was from this woman who was asked by her own father.
Right for Some
As the world was placed into lockdown, many were left questioning, “What to do today?” A few college friends got together and decided to open accounts on a sugar baby website. The inability to meet in person made these friends feel protected.
Some of them chatted with nice guys who were just lonely, while others encountered seedy characters. As this sugar baby notes, it’s important to find your boundaries and establish them. Standing up for yourself is important.
Not every sugar daddy-baby relationship ends in one walking out on the other. However, most of them do. These transactional arrangements start with the one party wanting monetary benefits, with the other seeking affection and time.
This particular sugar arrangement took a surprising turn when the two ended up getting married. Yes, despite the 49-year age gap, a sugar baby become a wife and the sugar daddy transitioned into a husband.
At What Cost?
Sugar arrangements can start off feeling super exciting in the beginning but when the novelty wears off of being chased or showered in gifts, you’re not left with much else. Such was the case for this Redditor.
She then saw the ugly truth about how men often casually cheat on their wives of decades and use their money and acclaim to get what they want. In the end, the sugar baby life left her with a cynical view on relationships.
Many sugar babies enjoy what they do because older men deal with boundaries better. Of course, not all men are like that, and some of these arrangements have gone too far and made the sugar babies feel uncomfortable.
This one sugar baby talks about a time when one of her clients started to develop an emotional attachment to her and even offered to take her to Vegas. She declined the offer because she didn’t fully trust him.
The prospective dating pool on sugar baby websites consists of wealthy individuals who may or may not be looking for a serious relationship. However, these self-made men have exciting stories to tell with their abundance of wealth. For anyone willing to listen, this can prove to be lucrative.
This woman opened up about using these sugar baby sites to find herself a wealthy husband. While she was looking in the right place, it is not known whether or not she found Mr. Right aka Mr. Rich.
Not Worth It
You know a job isn’t worth it when the emotional damage outweighs the financial benefits. Sugar baby work can come with traumatic consequences which never replace the monetary rewards.
One such Redditor wishes she had chosen a different path and had someone genuinely looking out for her. Sadly, as a result of her former-sugar baby life she was left with a bad self-image and a tainted understanding of her worth.
The foundation of a sugar daddy-baby relationship is based on one party deriving monetary benefits while the other receives companionship (or more). Most sugar daddies lead busy or emotionally unavailable lives.
Because of this, they’re prepared to pay for the good aspects of a relationship without shouldering the more serious responsibilities. So, we find it hypocritical and rather funny when they turn around and call sugar babies gold diggers.
Generous and Loving
A large portion of sugar babies is college students. Working alongside managing academics can be a hassle at such a busy age, so many choose to dip their toes in the pool of “sugar relationships.”
At 21 years of age, one woman is juggling three older clients. All three of them are pleasant to her, showering her with gifts and money whenever she is with them. Fortunately, she has never had a bitter experience on the sugar baby website, which is quite rare given how many creeps are lurking out there.
Different Kind of Dating
Before you find the “right” one, you would go on multiple dates. How are you supposed to know what’s best for you if you don’t even know your options? This is also the case with sugar arrangements.
A Redditor had a rule when she was still in the business. She would meet with prospective candidates, establish her financial goals, and be blunt about what she wants in life. She eventually met a man, and the two hit it off. Perhaps they could have been an endgame had she not moved.
People have different expectations from their partners, whether committed or not. It’s not rare for sugar babies to get weird requests in arrangements, and it’s entirely up to them whether they want to oblige or not. The key is to demonstrate your boundaries as well as what you want.
This woman recalls the controlling aspect of her sugar daddies as well as their desires that she declined. She later admits that being a sugar baby badly affected her ability to be in healthy romantic relationships.
Not What You Think
The age of older men in sugar daddy-baby relationships has always been a topic of hot debate. In reality, many men are pretty young and will look for potential mates to splurge on.
Interestingly enough, sugar babies claim that they have had far better connections with their sugar daddies than they have had with people they met on dating apps. This can be because the extra pressure of committing to someone isn’t there.
Open to New Things
The power dynamic in sugar arrangements is often skewed. When a person knows they hold control over one aspect of your life, they can manipulate you quite easily.
However, this isn’t always the case. A mom of two has mastered the art of making her sugar daddy “putty” in her hands. The surprising bit is that her husband knows of this and supports it. Perhaps the extra cash made it all okay.
Fun in the Kitchen
Companionship and cooking skills – these were the two things that a man demanded of his sugar baby. He was a total sweetheart and never crossed the line with her. His mother issues are what made him desire extra attention.
His idea of the perfect companion was a traditional woman who would serve him steaming hot home-cooked meals. His sugar baby grew fond of him for his traits, and the two stayed close for many years.
No More Dipping
Many younger women pick up the job of a sugar baby in order to pay off college bills, debts, or save up for the future. After a short while, they eventually fall out of it. This is what happened to one woman who became exhausted from the constant facade.
She enjoyed the monetary aspect of it, but pretending to be someone’s dream girl at all times became frustrating. Now 23, she says she never wants to try that again.
A Good Deal
This poster recalls her friend’s experience as a sugar baby. The single mother of one was able to get a new car and luxury items. Though he was a married man, he enjoyed spoiling this woman.
The specifics of their relationship weren’t mentioned but we’re assuming that the parties had feelings for one another. The sugar daddy gave her financial stability while she offered him attention and a shoulder to cry on.
A Learning Experience
Before online dating was prevalent, a 17-year-old met a 35-year-old through a phone chat line. As she had already reached the age of consent she was from, the two got somewhat physical.
However, for most of their relationship, the two enjoyed life by going out on adventures, drinking, shopping, and more. While he thought they dated, to her, it was more of a sugar arrangement. She looks back at that time with regret but admits it was “a learning experience.”
Theory Against Reality
Like every other job in the world, being a sugar baby isn’t for everyone. You can either have that realization from within or experience it to know you weren’t cut out for it. This woman’s account was somewhat in the middle.
She opened a profile on sugardaddy.com after a bad breakup and it wasn’t long before she was getting contacted by older suitors. She even went shopping with one man in his late 20s but never went through with their sugar arrangement.
According to this former-sugar baby, avoid this line of work at all costs. In her eyes, the financial benefits do not make up for the unfair power dynamic and lack of attraction.
She also hints that their dark minds will be damaging. Hearing this should make one doubt the pretty picture. Surely if something sounds too good to be true, it’s for good reason? What are your thoughts on this debate?
Finding the perfect sugar daddy/mommy takes a lot of effort. Most sugar babies claim they spend weeks finding “compatible” clientele. This woman who works in the adult industry compares her line of work to the sugar arrangements.
There are many similarities, except she is paid a monthly retainer and might have different intimacy boundaries than that of sugar babies. She seems to see it as a good way to make sufficient money.
A woman in her early 20s was approached by a mysterious, brooding man. Much like something out of a coming-of-age romantic fiction on Wattpad, the man asked her to be his sugar baby.
Naturally, things got complicated when his wife learned about his affairs. The man then chose to end the relationship, but by then, the sugar-baby was too attached to him, and it left her heartbroken.