He Must’ve Been Really Hungry
This person’s boss really should’ve just hired a personal assistant, since that’s the type of work he’s got this poor intern doing! We highly doubt that the OP is learning anything important about their chosen career by bringing their boss a sandwich.
Maybe they learned that this internship is not for them and their boss is taking advantage of the situation? Something tells us that’s not exactly what they were meant to walk away with…
Intern or Zombie?
We do have to admit that this may be what the OP’s chosen career is truly like. In that case, this isn’t necessarily the worst thing in the world – at least now they can see if that career is really for them.
That being said, it’s still a huge ask of someone who doesn’t officially have the job and isn’t getting paid. Given that this person is an intern and not a full-time employee, they shouldn’t have had to work that many hours straight.
This Is Never Okay
Intern or not, what this person had to go through is completely unacceptable. Students have to worry about their grades suffering if they complain about harassment. Employees have to worry about getting fired for being “difficult” if they call someone out for bothering them.
Meanwhile, interns have the fear of being both fired and getting a poor grade if they try to stand up for themselves at their internship. None of the above are acceptable situations – ever.
Playing the Blame Game
Unfortunately, a lot of internships take advantage of young interns because they know how badly the interns want to impress and, therefore, how unlikely they are to file an official complaint.
Even the paid internships are guilty of violating labor laws and not giving everything that was promised. A lot of people seem to think that paid internships will resolve the issue of free labor but somehow, even those internships manage to take advantage of their interns.
In Need of Earplugs
Open floor plan offices are always a bit tricky, as different people focus best in different environments. Some thrive in a lively, somewhat chaotic workplace — while others need complete silence and calm in order to get things done.
Though we can’t expect an entire workplace to change their vibe in order to accommodate one intern, screaming directly into the OP’s ear was completely uncalled for! Overall, it seems as though that office was just not the right fit for this intern.
Hand-Picked by the Boss
Um, why is anyone sitting in the boss’s office at all? We can’t think of a single reason why the boss would need an intern sitting with him each day, especially if it’s exclusively the female interns.
What does he base it on? Who looks the cutest that day? Ugh, we don’t even want to know! Good on those young interns for complaining — that takes a lot of courage anyway but especially at an internship.
Committing a Crime
This isn’t really the internship’s fault, per se, as it was work that needed to be done and it’s relevant to the OP’s chosen career. However, that doesn’t make this task any less traumatizing. Interestingly, that intern looking at those photos would be illegal in any other context.
So, this person basically got asked to commit a crime. If we were instructed to commit a crime, we’d much rather it be something more like robbing a bank. Or punching Harvey Weinstein in the face. Either one…
While some internships face the issue of not having enough work for their interns, some places have too much work and no one’s available to provide proper training. These situations usually end up with the intern being forced to take on work that they’re not ready for yet.
This means risking that the intern will make a mistake (due to lack of training) — which in a field like the OP’s, could be dangerous for someone’s health.
More Money, More Problems
Honestly, we’re pretty surprised that this company trusted their intern with that much cash! We can’t even imagine how terrifying it must have been for the OP to carry all that money around. What if something had happened?
As Dave Chappelle puts it: knowing that you have something everyone wants and will harm you in order to get is what women deal with every day. So, if the OP is female, this fear shouldn’t have been anything new to them.
The Rat Race
This poor intern seems to have had no clue as to what they’d gotten themselves into. Well, this would definitely serve as a very quick, and clear, way to know if genetics is really the field they want to work in.
It’s probably best to learn that type of thing early on, rather than after they’ve already started a career. In cases like these, as traumatizing as it is, this internship was most likely a good thing.
How to Speed Up Time
Honestly, if this company didn’t have anything for the intern to do, then they should have just sent them home. We get that they probably really needed those items photocopied, but that’s not why the intern was there.
The OP was there to learn about their potential career — not complete the boring tasks that no one else wanted to do. At least the time went quickly, it’s just a shame that it was all a waste.
A Bug’s Life
We need a bit more information on this one before we can pass judgment about the internship. Was this person’s career field related to studying bugs and they were truly learning?
Or were they supposed to do something completely different and simply got stuck with this disgusting task because everyone had the attitude of “Let’s make the intern do it”? Either way, we feel for this OP as the job was certainly anything but glamorous!
Making the Best of It
While this situation wasn’t ideal, it sounds like the intern had a great attitude about it! Instead of getting upset that their professor was confused about the role, the OP simply took the opportunity to discuss the research while also helping the guy fix his VCR.
While some internships try to take advantage of their interns, we really feel that this was just the case of an older gentleman who didn’t entirely understand the assignment. Good on the intern for finding a solution!
The Boss’s Dad’s Intern
Not only was this poor intern doing personal assistant work for their boss but they also had to do grunt work for their boss’s dad! At this point, why not just have the OP babysit the boss’s neighbor’s friend’s kids? We really shouldn’t give him any ideas…
We may not be finance experts but something tells us that this intern didn’t learn anything about the field by cleaning spaghetti and meatballs or moving furniture.
This Feels Illegal
The OP is probably learning tons about becoming a lawyer while in school. What are they learning in their internship? How to plunge a toilet. While that’s a pretty useful skill, we don’t think it’s what this person set out to learn when they accepted the internship.
We think this activity would have been appropriate if the OP were participating in a plumbing internship. Needing to plunge a toilet for a law internship seems… illegal.
The Internship That Wasn’t
If this company didn’t have any need for an intern, or any ability to properly show them the ropes, then why did they agree to participate in an internship program in the first place?
We understand that there were certain things the OP couldn’t do without the proper qualifications but shouldn’t the company have known that in advance and been able to prepare for it? We wonder what this poor intern did for the whole three weeks…
An Adult Film Intern
This unfortunate OP thought they were interning in a telemarking company when, apparently, they were interning in adult filmmaking! The fact that this boss had the audacity to request the intern to do this, and the fact that the secretary agreed, makes us think that this wasn’t the first time something like this happened at that office.
Maybe the whole program was a front for something else entirely and this intern just didn’t know to read between the lines?
There’s No Business Like Show Business
While some internships are paid, some are unpaid which is appalling enough within itself. What’s even more shocking is that there are some internships in which the interns actually pay for the experience! So, basically, the interns pay to provide free labor for the companies involved.
Not only is this concept completely unfair to the interns but it also creates a class divide. People who can’t afford to participate in an internship miss out on that experience — and the ability to put it on their resumes.
Before Masks Were Trendy…
This person was walking around in masks long before the rest of us! In all honesty, that type of immersive journalism is probably the kind of thing the OP would be doing in their career and so, the internship itself really wasn’t bad.
Still, it seems pretty embarrassing to have to do all that and it probably wasn’t their only assignment of this nature – this person was definitely paying their dues! Hey, everyone’s got to start somewhere, right?
We’re Going to Have Nightmares
In all honesty, we don’t think we’d be able to handle that haunted house because we’re going to have nightmares just thinking about what this intern went through!
To be fair, though, this is the career path they signed up for and it’s pretty on par with what one would expect from a haunted house production. We get that the experience is awful but the OP couldn’t have thought that this internship would be something like finger-painting or cuddling puppies, right?
There’s sending the intern to do the tasks no one else wants to do and then there’s… this. This is just a whole new level of messed up and whoever gave the OP this task should really be fired.
They probably didn’t tell the intern who the guy was because they didn’t want the young intern to refuse the task. Sadly, they probably wouldn’t have refused even if they had known, that’s how much interns can be pressured to stick with a program that isn’t working out for them.
Only in NYC
Ah, New York City. It’s probably the only place in the world where someone could walk around with a shopping cart filled with adult toys and no one would think anything of it. Had this incident happened anywhere else, the OP probably would have had some explaining to do.
The part that really kills us here is the “payment” the intern got for the cab. If the boss is going to give reimbursement that isn’t actually money, at least have it be something relevant for the individual!
Apparently, the Devil Does Wear Prada
If this particular boss was so fussy about which camera the interns got, she should’ve given clear instructions about which one she wanted. Or even better yet, she should’ve given that task to someone whose actual job it is to run her errands.
Furthermore, not only was the OP not getting paid but they were actually spending their own money on the job! Imagine spending money to run someone’s errands just to have them be rude to you afterward? Yeah, no thanks.
At least this OP knew what they were getting into and they were prepared for this type of interaction. Still, though, this situation must have been absolutely terrifying!
We really have to hand it to the internship program – this intern will definitely be prepared for this field and undoubtedly know if it’s what they want to do. Sadly, this was probably just the first of many similar experiences this person will have throughout their career.
No Prior Experience Necessary
We really want to know what this internship was! If this was the type of task the OP would have to do in their career, then although it sounds beyond tedious, it’s completely fair.
However, we have a feeling that this was just something that needed to get done in the office, that day, and no one else wanted to do it. We sincerely hope that we’re wrong. Either way, this intern will probably never wear beaded jewelry again!
Throwing Away Hopes and Dreams
Working for a government agency can always be tricky, as there’s often a lot of red tape. It’s entirely possible that the OP’s boss wouldn’t be able to do anything with all the ideas because of the level of bureaucracy involved.
That being said, she should’ve had the decency to not throw all of the intern’s hard work in the trash… right in front of their face! She could have at least pretended to entertain the ideas and then waited till the intern left the room.
At Least Put on Clothes
Wow, it seems like this internship contained way more drama than the red carpet would have! Who needs those tickets when you’re a part of this intern’s saga?
This story really has everything that a big-budget Hollywood movie contains: an innocent protagonist, a cruel antagonist, nudity, betrayal, a dramatic scene in which someone quits in public, and the main character finding their way home. Sometimes, reality truly is more interesting than fiction.
Photography or Gardening?
So, this person was supposed to learn photography and instead they learned… gardening? Well, at least they learned something! Seriously, though, why didn’t this photographer just hire a gardener?
At least the OP still maintained their love of photography, despite all this, and is managing to create a career for themselves in the field. It’s just a shame that they had to waste three whole weeks just to get one single day of mentorship.
Tired of Tires
It appears that this person spent their internship learning how to order coffee and ice cream, and how to lift a tire without breaking their back. While those are all relevant skills, we’re not sure that the OP needed to dedicate their precious career-building time to this stuff.
We just hope this intern’s back doesn’t hurt from carrying both the tires and the weight of their boss’s ego. Which do you think was heavier?
Figuring it Out
It’s always frustrating when a new workplace expects you just figure everything out on your own since no one has the patience to actually teach you. It’s even more frustrating when they get upset at you for (inevitably) messing up!
It looks like the OP is resourceful enough and managed to figure things out — no thanks to their internship, of course. To be fair, there’s nothing wrong with not having time to train interns but then maybe don’t hire one.
Imagine getting fired from your job because of a plant? How unbelievably furious would you be? Of all the reasons to fire someone, this has got to top the charts as the absolute worst one.
Maybe it would have been wise of the intern to sneak the plant some sunlight when their boss wasn’t looking? We’re sure everyone else at the office, who’s worried about their jobs, would be eternally grateful. That boss does seem like a lot of crazy — even by fashion industry standards.
Morning Coffee Run
It’s a pretty great feeling to know that you’ve spent the whole day prepping everything that you need to, in order to make the next stage of the day go smoothly. The OP was probably really pleased with themselves that they managed to arrange the room before leaving work, so they wouldn’t have to come in again.
Unfortunately, their boss doesn’t value efficiency — they simply wanted their intern to be at their beck and call every moment. So much for planning ahead…
Intern’s Best Friend
What kind of psychopath just decides that they don’t want their dog anymore? Furthermore, what kind of idiot chooses their boyfriend over their dog?! Lastly, what kind of boss gives a living being to a 20-year-old intern who’s expressed that they don’t know how to care for it?
We think that this employer needs to seriously re-evaluate her life choices. She doesn’t seem to deserve her intern and she certainly doesn’t deserve her dog.
Taking One for the Team
This intern was put in an impossible situation. On the one hand, they weren’t really qualified to coach. On the other hand, they couldn’t leave all those kids disappointed by ending the season early.
It was completely unfair for the OP to be put in that situation and it was the internship’s responsibility to make sure things like that don’t happen. Good on the OP for trying to make the best of it but we really don’t blame them for turning down the offer to continue.
How to Become a Nurse
People tend to complain about the price of medical services but what they don’t realize is that medical professionals make that much after years of studying and earning very little.
In fact, as the OP has pointed out, nurses have to pay for their internship experiences! So, the next time you see your doctor and feel frustrated by how much they make, just keep in mind what they went through to get there.
A Moral Dilemma
The fact that companies actually do this is pretty messed up. The fact that they get young interns, who don’t really have a choice, to carry out this morally questionable task — well, that’s even more messed up.
We would definitely rethink where we get our services after an internship like that one. We hope the OP didn’t beat themselves up too hard over this because it’s really the company who should be ashamed, not the intern.
Sculpting Young Minds
This pretty much sums up most internships: a young intern goes in all excited, bright-eyed, and bushy-tailed, only to discover that they’re going to be doing a whole lot of tedious and/or demeaning tasks that will teach them nothing.
Even if the company itself is great doesn’t mean that the internship will be worth the intern’s time. We think the OP’s story perfectly displays why internships should no longer be a thing. Or, at the very least, they should be managed better.
The Plant Person
So this boss seriously requested fake plans and then was surprised that they didn’t look real? Talk about unrealistic expectations! We’re not sure what this internship was for but we sincerely doubt that it was plant-related.
The thing is that the boss would never ask a regular employee to do this task, so why ask the intern? It’s this type of behavior that shows a total lack of respect for the entire concept of internships.
Irony at Its Best
Ah, the hypocrisy of politicians. It’s pretty difficult to believe that this politician couldn’t see the irony in the situation. If the OP were really sneaky, they’d find a way to let the opposing party know that his competition was doing the exact same thing that he was pointing fingers at.
Well, we suppose that this intern is doing the smart thing and simply revealing all on the internet — where they can remain safe and anonymous.
Lord Have Mercy
It’s always problematic when someone tries to impose their personal beliefs on an entire group of people. It’s even more problematic when it’s a boss pushing their faith onto their employees.
As the famous quote goes: “Religion is like one’s private parts. It’s perfectly fine to have it, it’s perfectly fine to be proud of it. But, if you take it out and start waving it in my face, we’re gonna have a problem.”
We’re pretty sure that this intern can consider this to be harassment. She’s supposed to be used as a toy for patients just because she’s an attractive woman? Really?
So, her boss’s reasoning is that this particular exam is what the patient would want from this woman but what about what the woman wants? We’re pretty sure that she doesn’t desire to perform unnecessary exams in someone’s privates just for the sake of a sucky internship.
We imagine that instead of making empty promises to an intern, this company could have simply hired an assistant to run errands and a cleaning person to tidy up the venues. Instead, they chose to basically use the internship as a way to get free labor.
The OP seems fine with working for free in exchange for help with finding a job in the music industry. Unfortunately, they really just wasted their time at that place, as that company wasn’t interested in helping them start their career.
The fact that this company didn’t have the budget to scan files but they did have the budget to make an intern clip things all day, pretty much says everything that we need to know about internships. We can’t even imagine how mind-numbing this task must have been!
While the OP may have gotten their school credits, they certainly didn’t learn anything about public relations. They probably did learn a lot about organizing binders, though…
Stuck in Traffic
Does this woman really expect her intern to be responsible for London city traffic?! Honestly, given that the ride was right at rush hour and the distance was quite far, it’s a miracle that the VIPs were only 15 minutes late and not more.
Even if the delay was somehow the intern’s fault, that doesn’t excuse screaming at them and implying that they’re incompetent. No boss should speak to their subordinates like that, whether it’s an employee or an intern.
Watching and Waiting
Once again, we’ve come across an internship that chose not to bother with properly teaching the intern how to do the job. Instead, they gave the intern “busy” work and then wondered why the person couldn’t help out with the daily workload.
At least this intern got to see how the job is done — that’s more than some of the other interns who’ve shared can say. We understand that it was probably awkward to just watch without being able to help, but at least it’s something!
40 Women Are Calling Out Things Society Deems “Normal” for Them That Are Actually Very Messed Up
It’s an understatement to say that women face things on a daily basis that they shouldn’t have to. There are plenty of things that they deal with regularly that shouldn’t persist as a problem. These Reddit users shared some of the most messed up behaviors that society too often deems as “normal.”
By and large, women handle a lot of inappropriate behavior from men that society deems just fine. Unfortunately, it can start at an early age.
This Reddit user particularly called out the habit of telling young girls that if a boy hits them, it’s because he likes her. Rather, it would be better to teach the young boy in this scenario that hitting is unacceptable behavior.
All in the Language
Language is complex and what you say can have quite an impact. So, it’s important to consider exactly how you refer to people and conduct yourself respectfully.
The example of this given here is the habit of using the word “girls” when referring to grown women. This is because “girl” is usually a word aimed at a young child. As a result, whether it’s intentional or not, it can come across as disrespectful and condescending.
Society tends to put a lot of weight on looks for both men and women. However, this Reddit user took issue with the extreme standards on women.
They explain that it doesn’t do any good to hold women to beauty standards that they’ll never be able to meet. They particularly note that a lot of these trends tend to push women to heavily alter their appearance. Some of the standards are even a little contradictory, making this goal potentially difficult and limiting.
An Unacceptable Standard
In most cases, if someone else is acting irrationally or blowing up, you can’t blame it on someone else. If you yell at someone without reason, it’s not their fault.
Still, as this Reddit user pointed out, women are often made to take responsibility or even blamed for the actions of men. This often includes when the woman who those “thoughts, words, feelings, and actions” were directed at. It creates an unfair disadvantage and misplaces blame.
You Need to Listen
There are some things that all women go through that often get written off. A big part of this comes with pain and cramps.
While a bit of pain during your period is common, severe pain shouldn’t go ignored. It especially shouldn’t get written off by a medical professional that should take complaints of pain and suffering seriously. Otherwise, there’s a very real risk of missing a serious medical issue that needs attention.
It’s Not Nothing!
Even without severe pain, periods are uncomfortable and can really make you feel not great for a while. Just because it’s frequent doesn’t discount that discomfort.
As such, that can make people trying to downplay that pain and discomfort frustrating and even invalidating. As this person pointed out, it’s not fair for men to act like women are acting weakly for feeling discomfort. Not to mention, it’s just a wildly rude thing to say to someone who isn’t feeling well.
And Another Thing
Before moving on, there’s one more side to the issue to consider. Periods are often blamed, jokingly and otherwise, for a woman having an emotional moment.
Women, just like everyone else, have emotions that are dependent on a lot of factors. Just because a woman is sad or angry, it doesn’t mean that she’s on her period or that’s what’s causing the problem. Women’s emotions are just like everyone else’s — they deserve empathy not brushed off and laughed at.
No Need for Justification
This is an important lesson that everyone should know — if someone says “no,” just stop what you’re doing. It’s a simple concept of consent.
Furthermore, it’s crucial to remember that the word “no” is a full and complete sentence. When a woman says no, it’s not right to push her to explain why. The rules are laid out already; there was an offer, she refused, and now it’s time to accept that.
Everybody deserves to meet people and have the other person respond with appreciation for you as a whole person. After all, people are complex and there’s a lot to learn about everyone!
This person pointed out that it’s not fair to women to boil them down to familial roles. No matter who she is, a woman is more than just someone’s wife or a mother but a whole, complete person who deserves for people to see them as such.
Let Them Speak
Women are often faced with the long-held chauvinist notion that leads men to treat them as if they aren’t as smart as they are. This is true even in fields they’re knowledgeable or experts in.
As this person highlighted, women are often faced with the scenario of someone fact-checking what they’ve said with a man. Alternatively, their helpful contributions are sometimes even brushed off and aren’t paid any mind at all. Once again, this behavior is highly disrespectful.
One of the often discussed issues when it comes to women’s rights is the concept of the gender wage gap. In other words, the fact that women tend to make significantly less than men.
This is true even in some of the same and similar positions. When a woman and a man have the exact same job, though, and the man makes far more, there are only so many factors to blame. The end concept is this — women and men should have equal pay.
There are few women who haven’t been referred to a man for help at some point in their lives. For instance, a salesperson asks a woman if she wants to get her husband’s opinion before a purchase.
The sentiment, whatever its purpose, is that women aren’t capable of making these decisions or completing an action without the help of a man. It invalidates their capability and intelligence when they’re perfectly capable of operating completely of their own accord.
They Said the Same Thing
This concept plays into a concept that we looked at earlier. That is, the concept that women can’t be authorities on subjects that they’re talking about.
On the other hand, this clearly isn’t a problem that men face. Many women have voiced their opinions in a group only for the idea to die — until a man in the group voices the same opinion to praise as if it’s more valid coming from him instead.
Doing it All
Housework is something that has often fallen disproportionately to women. Taking care of the house and the family is often seen as a job for women.
The problem with this is that it doesn’t put a lot of this responsibility on the woman’s husband if she’s married to one. This, of course, isn’t the case in every home but it’s a standard that’s far too common. Both parties should pull their weight in the home.
Creating Equal Footing
In a similar vein, the way that many people talk about a man “helping” around the house is something that this Reddit user is sick of.
They argue that the language that men are “helping” in their own homes or with their children is inaccurate. This is their home and their children that we’re talking about, and thus his responsibilities as well. So, it’s not “help” so much as completing the responsibilities they share.
It’s important to stand up for yourself as needed. On the other hand, it’s not always an easy task and people don’t always take kindly to it.
Yet, when a woman stands up for herself, she might find herself getting some push-back. As this person highlighted, that’s when women are often described as bossy, emotional, or worse. These responses are infrequently reserved for men who stand up for themselves in the same settings.
Help Out a Little
As we said before, it shouldn’t just be on the woman in the family to take care of the home and family. Men should throw their weight in as well.
This includes making sure that dinner’s on the table at night. This is more than just buying groceries too — it’s about cooking the meal directly. This person was shocked to see how surprised people were when they learned that their husband cooked rather regularly.
There’s No Correlation
There are two traits that some people seem to think don’t line up for women. However, women are perfectly capable of intelligence, even when they’re pretty.
This person was particularly upset with the trend they saw in how surprised the men they knew were to learn that a pretty woman was a scientist, doctor, or other highly educated position. In the end, a woman’s looks and her intelligence aren’t correlated and comments like these are fairly insulting.
Was It Not Enough?
There are certain positions that women find themselves less trusted in. This usually happens in roles that men have traditionally dominated.
In this case, this person was just trying to do their job at a hardware store. However, they regularly discredit her help just because she’s a woman. Sometimes, she even notes that they’ll start ignoring her completely once a man that can help them is available nearby — even if their advice had been helpful up to that point!
Just Trying to Work
Workplace harassment is no joke and it’s not something that women should have to deal with. Sadly, the reality is all too often unfortunate.
This person pointed out that they especially experienced it in their time working in restaurants and kitchens. They were often met with comments that it was just part of the job. Yet, harassment shouldn’t be on anyone’s list of things to deal with when they’re just trying to go to work.
Consider How it Feels
Pregnancy and motherhood are rewarding for a lot of women. There are plenty of people who are so excited to learn that they’re expecting.
Still, that doesn’t mean that it’s a walk in the park. Pregnancy is hard work — you’re literally growing another person! So, the pain and discomfort felt during pregnancy shouldn’t be ignored by others even if the woman planned her pregnancy out carefully. While rewarding, it’s a draining experience that’s far from easy too.
Views on Childbirth
On top of that, actually giving birth is a lot to go through as well. While shorter than the pregnancy itself, labor and delivery are often painful and frightening too.
This means that the medical professionals in the room should listen to the woman giving birth about her pain and symptoms to avoid missing something important. Not to mention, it’s often one of the most painful things someone will experience, so why not do everything you can to make them comfortable?
Supporting All Decisions
In the same vein as listening to pregnant women, it’s important not to dismiss or invalidate women who don’t want children either, no matter the reason.
After all, a woman’s worth is not dependent on her role as a mother now or in the future. Anyone can have a perfectly fulfilled life without children if they end up not having children. It’s incredibly rude to question a woman’s choice when she says that she doesn’t want or won’t have children.
See Them for Themselves
Sometimes, women do tend to like things that have been traditionally labeled as an activity often associated with women. That doesn’t mean they’re doing those things to fill a role now or in the future.
The example this Redditor used was their love of baking. Too often, they said that they were faced with comments about how their baking would be great for their future husband. Rather, they should have asked about this user and the value of their own hobby to them personally.
A Scary Situation
If you’re uncomfortable in public, you might reach for your phone to stay in contact with someone else. Even just telling them where you are can help in a bind.
However, this isn’t an experience that women have once in a while. Oftentimes, they feel the need to do this frequently, often including almost any time they use public transport. The fact that this is just a part of a woman’s everyday life shouldn’t be the norm.
This Reddit user noted something that is especially a problem — in their experience — while women just try to work. It comes back to the value too often placed on women’s perspectives.
They noted that while they worked, they noticed plenty of other women they worked with proposing their ideas and opinions with additional comments that the men around them didn’t use. It hinted at a situation wherein it seemed that women’s opinions unfairly held less value.
The concept of feminine or masculine interests often includes activities that anyone can really enjoy — regardless of their identity. Yet, they aren’t always valued the same way.
This person pointed out that interests usually attributed to women and girls are more often made fun of. They particularly pointed out that certain things that teenage girls often like are frequently belittled. However, there’s often nothing inherently wrong with these interests and there’s no reason to give them a hard time.
Give Them a Second
We mentioned earlier that giving birth is hard. So, it makes sense that even once a baby is delivered, the person who gave birth needs a chance to rest and recover.
Not to mention, no one is in their best shape after going through a big medical event. As such, it’s not fair to expect someone to immediately snap back after they’ve just given birth. They need time to regroup!
Keep Your Comments to Yourself
It’s a pretty good rule to follow that you shouldn’t unnecessarily comment on how someone looks. Particularly, what’s the point of even making someone miserable just to tell them you don’t like how they look?
This Reddit user took a moment to highlight that commenting on women’s looks is unnecessary. They even said that in their own experience, it wasn’t infrequent that someone decided to point out a “flaw” they saw in them for no reason. It’s simply rude and uncalled for.
Kept Out of the Fun
This Reddit user had a complaint in the same vein as a worry about too much of a fixation on women’s looks. They noted that it starts early in life too.
Too many times, they described that they’d seen young girls having to sit out playing with their friends who were boys for fear of messing up their appearance. They argue that young girls shouldn’t have to worry so much about their appearance from a young age but rather focus on having fun.
Worked to the Bone
Earlier, we talked about a Redditor that brought up the wage gap between men and women in the workplace. This person had something else to add too.
They noted that, frequently, the same amount of work didn’t pass for a man and a woman who are colleagues with the same job. Specifically, they delved further into the concept that women often have to work harder to earn the respect of the people around them than their coworkers who are men.
Trying to Stay Safe
If there’s one thing that a woman should have the opportunity to do safely, it’s turning down someone’s romantic advances without fear of repercussions.
Sadly, this isn’t always the reality. Women often have to act incredibly carefully when turning a man down for fear that they’ll retaliate. This comes back to the concept that one Redditor brought up that women shouldn’t have to bear the responsibility for men’s feelings and reactions.
Unfortunately, public transport isn’t the only time or place that women often feel unsafe. Many women are nervous to go out at night for fear of what could happen.
This Redditor said that they wish it wasn’t so normalized and accepted that women couldn’t do something as simple as go for a nighttime stroll. Instead, they note that they worry about all of the other unacceptable but far too normalized behaviors they might encounter.
Bad at Any Age
At this point, we’ve seen a lot of norms in which people seem to think they have far too much freedom to tell women their opinions on their bodies.
This person highlighted the fact that most people don’t wait until adulthood to start this practice either. For many women, the comments surrounding their appearance — especially negative comments — are often an experience that happens throughout their lives. In this case, it’s best to keep your comments to yourself about people’s appearances.
Don’t Say That
If there’s one comment that almost every woman has heard at some point in her life, it’s a man telling them to smile. For one, doing this always comes off as unsettling and creepy — especially when strangers make this comment.
Furthermore, women don’t owe men anything. That includes a smile for a man when that woman is just trying to get on with her day. All in all, it’s a comment that men should keep to themselves.
We’ve mentioned before that there’s a long-held stereotype that accuses women of being more emotional than men. Yet, it’s often just a way to invalidate women’s thoughts, comments, or feelings.
After all, if a woman’s emotions are written off as her fault, there’s no need to address her actual concerns or opinions. On top of that, just because a woman has a differing opinion or point of view doesn’t mean that men should invalidate her opinions as a part of an “emotional” disposition.
Not an Excuse
Women can be and often are good friends with men in their life. Still, there’s a point that “one of the guys” isn’t that great anymore.
Specifically, it’s upsetting when men use the “one of the guys” mentality to excuse treating other women poorly in front of their friends while they may or may not offer her the same treatment. It’s not right for them to use this as a way to bash other women in plain view.
Just Say “Excuse Me”
In a crowded place, sometimes you have to squeeze through a crowd of people. In these cases, saying “excuse me” is enough to announce your presence.
However, many women have experienced a man that felt the liberty to replace “excuse me” with a hand on their waist or the small of their back. This contact without permission is not only unnecessary but it’s disrespectful of the woman’s personal space. In sum, don’t do it!
An Assumption of Help
Another concept that’s often associated with women as a whole rather than a person-by-person basis is being helpful in nature. This Reddit user points out the big problems with this.
For one, it puts women in a position where they’re expected to help people even if they don’t have the time, energy, or desire. Even worse, it creates an environment in which people are more likely to push women’s boundaries to get them to help out when they need it.
There’s a persistent idea that men and women can’t be friends. The flawed and nearly nonsensical concept is that these friendships can’t possibly stay platonic.
This Reddit user pointed out that this often leads to another concept. Since those friendships are often considered impossible in a platonic sense, some people expect women to stop talking to their friends who are men if they start dating another guy. In the end, this hurts potential friendships and relationships on both sides as well as that it’s insulting.
Just Respect Them
Throughout this list, we’ve looked at quite a few different ways that women face their opinions and contributions to discussions being questioned or outright undermined.
This Reddit user summed this up in a single statement. At the end of the day, there’s no reason not to take women as a whole seriously other than bigotry. Women are capable of a lot, just like anyone else and it’s disrespectful to not take them seriously based on the fact that they’re female.
Even at Home
There are a lot of unnecessary and even outright upsetting norms about how people treat the way women dress. They’re often heavily critiqued for their appearance.
One thing that shouldn’t have to be added to this is a woman having to cover up more than usual just for the comfort of men in the house. However, most women have experienced being told to change out of a pair of shorts or a top on account of the men around, even in their own homes.
Not Listening at All
Earlier, we talked about how people should pay more attention to the medical concerns of women who are pregnant or concerning women’s health issues.
Sadly, this failure to listen to women often doesn’t stop in these particular pockets of medicine. Many women have been written off for their complaints because the people around them didn’t trust them not to exaggerate. At the end of the day, women know their bodies and they’re able to tell when they’re feeling something unfamiliar or painful.
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