The Wild World of “Are We Sharing Boyfriends?” Facebook Groups

Facebook groups have popped up in recent years to help women in different communities find out if their boyfriends are cheating and share information about bad Tinder dates. If you’ve never heard about such groups before, let us fill you in. The Wild World of “Are We Sharing Boyfriends?” Facebook Groups

The Idea Behind the Facebook Groups

These are city-specific groups where women post photos of the guys they are dating either because they think they might be cheating or because the relationship is new and they want to know more. In Las Vegas, for example, there are three such groups, which combined have over 11,000 members. Once an admin approves your request to join, you will feel like in the John Tucker Must Die movie. All it takes is posting a photo and you may get hours of discussions about a guy who’s cheating.

A Real-Life Example

Savannah, a 23-year-old from Philadelphia, was one of the first members of the local AWSB group. She’s been seeing a guy for about 6 months but she knew “something was up,” mainly due to the fact that her boyfriend claimed he doesn’t have any social media presence.

This is when Savannah posted a few pictures of her man and relentlessly refreshed and refreshed again until someone commented that this man was in a 3.5-year relationship. As devastating as it is, the group helped Savannah find the truth and she also made a new friend going through the same thing. That’s right, the woman who responded, Danielle (27), connected with Savannah and they ended up supporting each other.

The Science Behind It

A San Francisco-based psychotherapist specializing in creating intimacy and building healthy relationships says that joining these groups makes sense because they scratch a very human itch. According to the specialist, there’s an intense hormonal response due to cortisol and dopamine increase when posting and reading posts in such Facebook groups. You can get a rush of adrenaline from these posts and this is why many check these groups regularly even if they cause stress. Photo of cute beautiful young woman indoors at home using mobile phone chatting. Looking aside lies in bed.

Advice from a Therapist

While the AWSB groups can be really helpful in catching a cheating partner, they can also be used by women who are casually dating men and want to find out more about them. The therapist said this is unhealthy behavior and advises to talk about your feelings with your partner, rather than trying to find out through Facebook if they are seeing other people too. It’s important to create boundaries with the person you are dating and if you are struggling to find ways to communicate the way you feel, be sure to turn to a professional therapist. They will give you the right tools to navigate through these situations.

Fang: A New Knitwear Brand that is Channeling Queer Self-Confidence

Fang is a brand new knitwear brand that is queer-focused and recently debuted its campaign video. It featured a group of models dancing, swimming, and even playing cards in Joshua Tree, CA. They were wearing minimalist and chic knit tops as they expressed clear and platonic queer love. Fang Guo, the founder of the brand, said that the campaign video was inspired by a trip that he took with his friends. They enjoyed each other’s company and had an immense amount of support, admiration, and love for each other.

Fang Is All About Self Confidence

Fang, the new knitwear brand, has officially launched.
Fang: A New Knitwear Brand that is Channeling Queer Self-Confidence

Guo is aiming to hype up the queer people through fashion, self-love, and self-confidence since this is something that hasn’t always come naturally to him. The designer started the Fang fashion line after many years of not being able to find clothing in stores that make him feel empowered.

Fang Guo is from Beijing and lives in New York now. He got the idea for his brand in the early 2010s when he was studying fashion in San Francisco at the Academy of Art University. During his university years, Guo became very frustrated with the slim amount of menswear options available when shopping. They were either constricting formalwear or more sporty and lacked shape.

Filling the Gap

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Fang: A New Knitwear Brand that is Channeling Queer Self-Confidence

After graduating and working in PR and merchandising, Fang Guo knew that he wanted to fill the gap by creating a clothing line that is specifically made with queer people in mind. The new collection for Fan consists of form-fitting knitwear tops that resemble menswear classics like polo shirts and tanks but with a twist – they also have strappy backs and elegant bows. The goal for Guo was to turn around toxic masculinity.

Guo wanted queer men to embrace the bodies that they’re in, which is why he chose to use an innately bodycon fabric, knitwear. The pieces have spandex and some stretch in them. The colors are also out of the norm as they venture more into the ‘60s art color palette.