Most people confuse jealousy with envy. The big difference is that when you are jealous, you view another person or thing as an impediment to receiving love, attention, affection, and so on. In contrast to envy, jealousy is the desire to obtain something that another person possesses. According to that definition, feeling jealous may be an indication of an unmet and unsaid emotional need in your relationship. So, how to deal with jealousy? Here are some ways:
Admit & Accept Jealousy
Admitting to being jealous does not automatically make you a bad person! Jealousy is one of the many emotions that humans will encounter throughout their lives. Denying your jealousy can potentially trap you in a cycle of constant denial of your emotions. Consider the following: What are some possible impediments to admitting to being jealous? Being honest with yourself about your emotional state removes another roadblock to resolving them. Remind yourself that your thoughts and feelings are all equally valuable. Also, keep in mind that your emotions require time and space to process at your own pace.
Recognize Unsaid and Unmet Needs
This part may be way too uncomfortable for you because you are required to demonstrate vulnerability within yourself. When jealousy involves a third party, experts recommend conducting a self-assessment to assist in sorting through the tangle of emotions. You don’t want to make assumptions or find yourself recalling past experiences and projecting them onto your current relationship. You should ask yourself what this emotion is telling you, where you feel unseen in your current relationship and what you believe you are losing. Answering all these questions can easily unveil unfulfilled needs that you may or may not have thought about communicating with your partner.
Making Rash Decisions Is Never Okay
Decisions made during periods of temporarily elevated emotions can have long-lasting negative consequences. Jealousy that spirals out of control can manifest as envy and anger, corroding the relationship, the polar opposite of what you want. If you can pause for a moment and self-soothe during a stressful situation, you can reduce the likelihood of making a regrettable choice. The exercise you can do is taking deep breaths, work on achieving progressive muscle relaxation, and maybe focus on a mindfulness activity of your choice.